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#359780 - 04/29/12 12:35 AM me again, screwing up again....
jadewilson06 Offline
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Hi. HELP
so i was having my bf over for the weekend. we decided we werent going to have sex, but OF COURSE.....
he slipped in unprotected and i was so caught up in everthing that we just kept going, based on the idea that we would take plan b he wouldnt cum inside me. so thats what happened(meaning he DIDNT cum inside me). he bought the plan b, and i took the first pill right away and the second about 2 hours after the first (i was told that it was fine to take it anywhere between 0-12 hours after taking the first). so we figured, ok, no more sex. so later, we were just fooling around (to be exact, he was performing cunnilingus and taking care of himself simultaneously)and 2 things happened: 1, i noticed a couple of things that lead me to believe i may be ovulating (can that affect the plan b???) and 2, he somehow ended up cumming all over my nether areas. i didnt think any got in, but its entirely possible. so i panicked and actually took a paper towel, drenched it in hydrogen peroxide, and wiped the whole area and inside a bit. then i called the plan b hotline on the box and talked to a representative that wasnt very helpful at all (she basically just told me a bunch of information that i already knew)

so tell me: am i screwed (no puns, please)?????
hope people answer right away.
thanks!


Edited by jadewilson06 (04/29/12 12:35 AM)

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#359781 - 04/29/12 02:32 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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you should be ok, when is your next period u could check with a clinic
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#359782 - 04/29/12 03:50 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: older&wiser]
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i just had mine last week on tuesday. so i guess in about 3 weeks to a month.
but u really think im ok? can u explain a bit please? thanks

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#359783 - 04/29/12 04:21 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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u ovulate about 14 days after your period ends sperm can survive appox 3 days inside you so unless you fool around next week end you should be ok , now everyone is different so just be extra careful or you'll be called mom in less than a year!
Also the sex drive is one of the stroungest drives, no matter what the bf says all he wants is to plant his sperm in you and in the correct circumstances your body wanys to be pregnant so think about the pill or motherhood which do you wany now
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#359785 - 04/29/12 09:20 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: older&wiser]
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yeah..third occurance of the weekend, leaving me regreting him even coming down this weekend. we were just going to make out for a few minutes before he left. then, of course, we started having sex (with a condom this time) and he TOOK THE CONDOM OFF. whats worse, i LET him. i guess i figured hed only be in for another few seconds, especially since i was so close...
i am so stupid. he pulled out, but some had to have gotten in there. i think im going to take plan b again, for the second time in one week. i realise thats bad for you, but i really dont see any other option.
and i know what older&wiser said about ovulation, but my cycle is really weird and i have no clue when i actually ovulate.
im just tired and dont want to exist anymore.

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#359786 - 04/29/12 10:54 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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Strict rule--no condom=no sex. Condom comes off, everything stops.

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#359787 - 04/29/12 11:15 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: readytogo]
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i agree. i really dont know whats wrong with me.

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#359788 - 04/30/12 12:51 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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I don't think there is any thing "wrong" with u the boy friend?

he in my opion is just out to get laid, and hes picked u to be the one, and u go along with it to please him, thats not a big problem if the relationship is strong and u are on the Pill, ur not and he'll still want sex, u'll get preggers to what ends 4 u?

ps what is ur age?


Edited by older&wiser (04/30/12 12:53 AM)
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#359789 - 04/30/12 01:22 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: older&wiser]
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im 21. i really dont think hes just out to get laid...after all, he waited a while before i was ready to have sex, and we're pretty serious...
and yeah, i worry about this sort of thing all the time. it seems as though neither of us can control our urges, especially when we've been apart for lengths of time (i go to school a good 3-4 hours away from where he lives)
i really dont want to get pregnant...not yet..,.i mean i would love a family, but the timing is off. know what i mean?

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#359790 - 04/30/12 04:18 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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Plan B is still effective when you are ovulating. Also, it should be effective for both times, since they were within a day or so. In addition, pre-cum inside, and cum outside, both have only a very small (though not zero) chance of causing pregnancy even without the Plan B.

So you should be OK this time. Obviously in future you should make sure the two of you have prepared better for the unplanned. \:\)

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#359791 - 04/30/12 12:35 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: Ineligible]
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ok. actually...i just went to the pharmacy and bought and took the plan b for the second time in 3 days. looks like im in for a rough month. the pharmacist actually recgnised me, though. we had a bit of a talk about it, and i realised that im actually a bit mad at my bf atm. especially after last night, when he kept talking about how im already pregnant (which im pretty sure is impossible at this point)and how i was killing our child by taking plan b and how our daughter deserves life and he doesnt.
whats worse is that, considering i found out i might have a sleep disorder, i couldnt stay awake while i was tlaking to him on skype. so, of course, he said taht this is because (as he says) im "with child".
now i think hes mad at me for falling asleep on him. is it bad that with 6 tests in the next 2 weeks im not freaking out about that?

i guess theres one more thing that i really want to say, but i dont have the nerve to tell anyone or say on facebook or twitter or anything. but really, it's been circulating in my mind all morning.
theres this song by one of my favourite bands, on a concept album. the song is about this angelic figure (called a prise) that is chosen to guide a messianic figure, but in order to do so must become more human than prise, by burning her own wings. at the end of the song, they have a section with multiple vocal parts, one of them being the following: "i will call u out from shelter burn ur wings u'll know no better i will call u out from shelter burn ur wings and learn their letters"
ive had this song in my head for about a week now, and today it was as if this voice in my head was telling me, don't burn ur wings. no matter who the guy is. hes not worth who u r.
what im saying is...i love my bf. but im not going to sacrifice my future for him.
sorry about this really long post, i just have nowhere else to say all this, except maybe my diary. but i guess i want this to be read by someone. u understand, right?
well, thanks
-jade

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#359792 - 04/30/12 04:55 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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u r finally getting it ur bf isn't the right one, what he wants is sex, and despite what he says he is trying to guilt u into having sex. U need a better bf not one who is controling or trying to just to get what he wants from u, whose life will change if u do/r preggers not his he's done his job he'll leave the rest(and u) alone the choice is yours do u really love him or feel that u need too love him to justify the desicion to give ur virginity to him and continuning to sleep with the frist guy u slept with, ur only 21 and it is your life, start thinking of u not him, I don't think he's thinking of u atleast not all of u just one area. U been going through this sense last Aug
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#359793 - 04/30/12 06:28 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: older&wiser]
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i know it looks bad, but things have been so much better between us. i really do love him; i mean he really does make me really happy when shit like this isnt going on. im just really mad right now, and i think i have a right to be. of course, he texted me today telling me that he couldnt live in a world in which im angry at him. i think im going to tell him that i need a night or so to myself (2 tests tomorrow...), though lets see how that actually goes.

that said, anywhere i can find a good deal on a chastity belt?

ps- i feel so sick. it could be the nuvigil i just started today, but either way, i strongly recommend against having 2 plan bs in one weekend. but if it means me not being pregnant, it's worth it


Edited by jadewilson06 (04/30/12 06:58 PM)

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#359794 - 04/30/12 10:10 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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[b][/b]u have the right to b angry esp bcause of the 3x he tryed to get u preggers this weekend, I know u cann't see it ur too much in lust and u can be blinded by that the text he sent u is a way of contol makes u think he'll harm himself if ur angry,shame on him the 2night to ur self will good but I know what he'll say he'll text u saying how much he misses u ect,ect this will be a learning experience 4 u(b strong) the c belt went away last Aug the 1st time u let him in ur bed and U the only way is to start over with a New Guy (something ur afraid to do) Nuvigil? bcp?
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#359816 - 05/02/12 05:53 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: older&wiser]
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nuvigil is a medication used to treat narcolepsy

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#359833 - 05/05/12 03:51 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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[b][/b]how r u doing?
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#359840 - 05/07/12 12:55 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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It sounds like he's trying to get you pregnant on purpose. Why would he want to scare you into thinking you're pregnant, knowing you don't want to be???

You're in college, if you go to the campus clinic you can get a BIG discount on birth control or anything else the clinic offers. When I was taking birth control I got mine for $15, at an off campus pharmacy without insurance it was around $80. There is no reason you can't be prepared, there's so much readily available to protect yourself. Think of all the hard decision you'll have to make if you're not ready (mentally or financially) for a child and the decision to not stay with your boyfriend will be simple. He doesn't even understand/care why y'all need to take better precaution.
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#359841 - 05/07/12 01:02 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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This seems like a important event in your life, something that you two need to agree on.

Take control of your life and what happens to you. You have this time, so take it. There are other options besides Plan B. You don't have to keep relying on that. There's also non-hormonal birth control methods. I've been looking in to those myself, but right now the only one that's ideal is tubal litigation.
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#361015 - 08/27/13 10:09 PM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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update: me and that guy didnt work out, and frankly i'm relieved, looking back on it all. now i have a wonderful boyfriend who for some reason puts up with me and my neuroticism...says he loves it, in fact, since its part of me. go figure.
anyway, so what brings me back here is this: i am having yet another pregnancy scare. y this keeps happening to me i dont know. i thought i was smarter than this.
earlier this month we ended up having unprotected sex and i took plan b for the first time since new year's. i think this caused me to have one day or so in which i had menstrual-like bleeding, but that could have been because i was just finishing menstruating anyway.

so we spent a week or so with my parents a week ago, then when we got back went crazy on eachother and ended up having unprotected sex when we got back to school. he was nowhere near finishing before we put a condom on, but i still didnt feel right about it in retrospect. the next day, we got drunk and had unprotected sex for a short period of time, the same way (we put on a condom and he wasnt even close).
a day or so later i talked to one of my professors, who told me that there is sperm in precum, which caused a rise in pregnancies last year. i felt so stupid and anxious for days, but decided to check out some websites that seemed reputable enough, which said that there is no sperm in precum. im so confused. is livestrong a good site? who do i believe? should i be freaking out?


Edited by jadewilson06 (08/27/13 10:10 PM)

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#361016 - 08/28/13 06:49 AM Re: me again, screwing up again.... [Re: jadewilson06]
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Typically there is no sperm in precum. However, if he has ejaculated, through masturbation for example, and has not yet urinated before having sex, it is possible that the precum could pick up some sperm cells before it is discharged.
That is one reason why the pullout method of birth control is not reliable.

You may have answered this previously, but why don't you consider taking birth control pills? That way you won't have to worry about the lack or timing of the use of a condom during these unexpected bouts of unprotected sex.

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